How to Handle Setbacks

  1. Perspective: “All of us are in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.” Much like how boat can only sink if it allows the water of the ocean to weigh it down, we can stay “afloat” in life regardless of the odds or circumstances, so long as we do not allow negativity to consume us. How we view the world, how we think, act, talk, and what we believe, all shape our experiences and our lives. Choose to see the positive in every situation, because although you may not be able to change the situation, you can change how you think of the situation, and that makes all the difference.
  2. Think Ahead: “This too shall pass.” In the moment of dealing with a setback, sometimes all we can think of is how crummy we feel, how mad we are with our circumstances, and how stuck we feel. Sometimes the most uplifting and comforting thing we can do is to remind ourselves that setbacks don’t last forever. Maybe it will take a week, a month or a couple months, but regardless, things will get better. Focus on the positive outcome and the good times to come, because by doing so, you are helping to manifest those good things in your life
  3. Remind: “Of this be sure: You do not find the happy life.. you make it.” Remind yourself of what you want to achieve in life, of the places you want to go, the success you want to find, and the dreams you are going to pursue. Now think, what will it take to get me there? Maybe at the current moment, all you can think about is overcoming this hurdle. If so, try to brainstorm some ways you can consciously work towards overcoming a hardship or setback. Does it require physical conditioning? (Such as me, who had a biking accident and injured my knee) Maybe picking up an odd job or two? Or would making a few important emails/phone calls help? Whatever it is, acknowledge that you are not insignificant, and some of the most divine interventions are simply a subtle nudge to take action in your life.




Surround yourself with supportive individuals, and seek console in other’s wisdom, encouragement and aid. Having a strong support system is crucial to overcoming life’s harder times. Remember to focus on the light at the end of the tunnel, and to have faith that each situation is teaching you a valuable lesson and building character. It may not make sense now, but perhaps upon reflection 10 to 15 years from now, once you’ve seen a greater picture of your life, you will understand. Choose to be happy, to seek out the light in life, and to take each moment for what it is with gratitude. It really is a wonderful life.


Contemplative Miranda

Wishing you above all Health & Happiness

Miranda xo


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